tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post8800514389981344716..comments2024-03-15T12:49:28.916-07:00Comments on Last Chance IVF: An untitled post. Oh wait...I just titled it.lastchanceivfhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14139576318784337837noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-58492059349022934442010-06-11T17:03:26.830-07:002010-06-11T17:03:26.830-07:00I have nothing more to add than what everyone else...I have nothing more to add than what everyone else had already posted. Lots of love and hugs going your way. :)Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06102362663976429651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-68810084342486242852010-06-10T19:48:05.229-07:002010-06-10T19:48:05.229-07:00Your post made me cry. I, too, can't wait to o...Your post made me cry. I, too, can't wait to one day feel "eternally grateful"...when I finally get the chance to parent. And, like you, I constantly wonder these days...is my path choosing me?<br /><br />As adoption becomes more of a reality for us, we took a 10-week adoption seminar class and met a great network of people. I cried seeing the video of a former IF support group ally's DH holding their soon-to-be daughter adopted internationally. (My god, do I sound like the biggest crier, or what? :)<br /><br />Wishing you a world of happiness in your decision to adopt...and looking so forward to reading those "eternally grateful" posts when you cross to the other side. <br /><br />Cheering you on from this small corner of San Fran...Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17462141149078143157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-90903166868525407262010-06-08T10:43:13.157-07:002010-06-08T10:43:13.157-07:00awesome news. I'm curious why you chose this ...awesome news. I'm curious why you chose this path rather than donor eggs? Or did I miss that post? Of course you have every right not to tell, but I'm in the same situation and trying to determine next steps...so I'm just curious.Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15844319222032025685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-24035336554386503212010-06-08T09:40:57.979-07:002010-06-08T09:40:57.979-07:00Any baby will be very lucky to have parents like y...Any baby will be very lucky to have parents like you and your DH. Your personalities shine through via this blog. I cannot wait to follow along! :)Auntie Emhttp://ccrmjourney.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-76412255587435393992010-06-08T08:00:39.932-07:002010-06-08T08:00:39.932-07:00You and Mr. LC will be amazing parents and your ba...You and Mr. LC will be amazing parents and your baby will be blessed with an incredible amount of love from the both of you. You will be able to provide a life that this child would not otherwise know. I know that adoption is a hard and overwhelming experience but when that baby is placed in your arms, all of that will fade away. Your mommy dreams will have come true. I'm so happy for you both!Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05200639221841548302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-39166267801860420052010-06-07T21:24:01.071-07:002010-06-07T21:24:01.071-07:00Congratulations! Can't wait to hear more about...Congratulations! Can't wait to hear more about this, particularly which country you chose and why (if you're open to sharing that).Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09564075022074996137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-80837798723013332102010-06-07T16:53:14.550-07:002010-06-07T16:53:14.550-07:00I can't wait to hear more, and I'll think ...I can't wait to hear more, and I'll think good thoughts that your baby is out there waiting for you!Pennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00648049238771250699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-21080336062402792672010-06-07T11:51:58.523-07:002010-06-07T11:51:58.523-07:00Lucky kid to have you and Mr. LC as parents. My h...Lucky kid to have you and Mr. LC as parents. My heart breaks and is so excited for you at the same time.la17https://www.blogger.com/profile/12517633058090408340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-5650840220892628062010-06-07T10:01:46.297-07:002010-06-07T10:01:46.297-07:00Beautiful and painful... all of it. I just want to...Beautiful and painful... all of it. I just want to give you a big hug.Babystepshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15887687246851640547noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-40940063153068579532010-06-07T08:34:37.583-07:002010-06-07T08:34:37.583-07:00You and Mr. LC will be wonderful parents...and wil...You and Mr. LC will be wonderful parents...and will make tons of mistakes too, lol, I think it is inevitable. I even think that mistakes are in the eye of the beholder! <br /><br />I know adoption helps with the loss of ability to parent only, but, from what I've seen of my IRL friends who have adopted after years of failed IF treatments, they have all but forgotten the other losses. I think a child just takes over...so you may still feel pangs of loss here and there but you really won't have time or inclination to notice them. At least that is what I've gotten from them during very frank discussions (when we were considering adoption but then found out we were not an ideal couple to likely have success at it).Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05323373273366929886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-47334904769006594922010-06-06T21:46:10.328-07:002010-06-06T21:46:10.328-07:00Thank you for your post. I had my DE cycle cancel...Thank you for your post. I had my DE cycle cancelled last month and am in the process of coming to terms with adoption. Like you, I know I will be a great parent and wish so badly that I could carry a child with my genetics. These past years have been gruelling for me as I knew I would have also been that pampered mom...But alas, I fear that this will not be my reality either. <br /><br />But know this, that baby will love you because you are his/her mom. You will give that child a love like no other.Lady Rhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913511681933166348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-10009588405439363902010-06-06T20:52:48.290-07:002010-06-06T20:52:48.290-07:00I'm glad to see that you've found your pat...I'm glad to see that you've found your path and I know it is not an easy one to follow but I wish you all the best. May your wait time be short and the process speedy!kayjayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18256420678906545238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-1225183434398947502010-06-06T17:54:12.635-07:002010-06-06T17:54:12.635-07:00I feel you on the ovary front. Always teasing me ...I feel you on the ovary front. Always teasing me with hope...<br /><br />That's so neat to think that your baby most likely already exists in this world. Your child's birthmother may not be getting the proper care, but I do hope she feels comfort from your prayers.<br /><br />That said, having a baby on the way, how are you not registered at Target yet? Once the paperwork was accepted, I don't think I would be able to resist :)Libbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06957887707439694944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-15683425781272247642010-06-06T17:34:13.722-07:002010-06-06T17:34:13.722-07:00While there are so many things that you must feel ...While there are so many things that you must feel scared about as you wait and wonder, there is a very, very exciting idea that awaits you and Mr LC ... the idea that a beautiful, amazing little baby is out there growing by the day, waiting to meet you and Mr. LC. Your baby, your baby is out there. You will meet her one day... and though you'll take it one day at a time on your path to meet her, your day will come and she will be in your arms. Sending you love across the miles tonight!GailYhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09494920202056776668noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-38500478365659215132010-06-06T07:20:57.147-07:002010-06-06T07:20:57.147-07:00A very moving post. My work includes working with ...A very moving post. My work includes working with children who have been adopted. The joy they bring to their families is beyond words. I'm so glad that joy is heading your way.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-32824827642128783972010-06-05T19:04:37.272-07:002010-06-05T19:04:37.272-07:00Here's my take.... You're "paper preg...Here's my take.... You're "paper pregnant" right now, so why cease to pamper?! The dossier is done, so now you wait, the same "when will it happen" wait that those with the bio-babes also wait. Yours may NOT be 9 months (40 weeks, actually, which when the math is done is NOT 9 months, but whatev!) You're in the "wait"! Yes, some pampering happens because mom is too "big" or "tired" or whatever- but mostly it's because everyone around her knows: this is the last time you get to focus any attention on yourself for the next 18 years. From the time you get the call and board that plane, life is no longer about YOU or Mr. LC, but about that precious baby that is YOUR child. <br />So I say now is the time to start pampering! Pedicures, spa treatments, new shoes, ice cream- whatever it is that your heart desires. Soak it up, this paper pregnancy- it's something that should be celebrated! :)SillyHillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10856854547650157709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-14397851784398090012010-06-05T18:24:56.946-07:002010-06-05T18:24:56.946-07:00Ugh. Damn mother nature. It would really irk the...Ugh. Damn mother nature. It would really irk the shit out of me to know ding! two weeks, ovulate. ding! two weeks, period. Like you need an effing reminder, right?<br /><br />Everyone makes mistakes. Millions of them. Welcome to parenthood! Even with those million mistakes, you & Mr. LC are already such natural parents and good people- it will be wonderful to see you both doting on a child. While it is a little mind-bogging that your baby is conceived and growing, I keep sending good vibes out there for your baby, the mom, the dad, the orphanage/agency, and that everything falls into place. I am so excited! I know there is still a ways to go, but it is exciting! A baby! SQUEE!Not Your Aunt Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11170586207423260492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-10533216244051520192010-06-05T17:09:30.661-07:002010-06-05T17:09:30.661-07:00I feel the frustration of my body wanting to procr...I feel the frustration of my body wanting to procreate too, and knowing my eggs are crap. I think I have some idea of what it's like to give up your genetics, having struggled with the same thing myself (yes on adoption, no on DE is the current thought). There is a lot of heartache all the way around, but I can't help but think there is a happy ending for all of you in the end.Phoebehttp://talesphoenix.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-41427065116639059812010-06-05T14:40:24.076-07:002010-06-05T14:40:24.076-07:00I hear you on making mistakes along the way. (I...I hear you on making mistakes along the way. (I'm sure we'll make plenty.)<br /><br />I hear you on getting a period like clock work every. single. month. (The bane of my infertile existance.)<br /><br />I hear you on thinking about whether your child's been conceived yet and what his/her birth mother is doing at this moment and she's going through.<br /><br />I think you've been in my mind too lately! We are so on the same wavelength.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11568731053148296398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-74405520404798840392010-06-05T12:21:08.234-07:002010-06-05T12:21:08.234-07:00Wow! I wish I could go back in time and be the kid...Wow! I wish I could go back in time and be the kid that gets to be matched with you!<br /><br />Seriously, though. Of course it's a fraught process with so many what-ifs, but in the end there are reasons that people can't raise their own children. I hope you find a match that feels like a best-case scenario for everyone. If I had to give up my kid I would be so grateful for you and Mr. LC. <br /><br />Wishing you the absolutely best!Lorrainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04180034761243431694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-64035703333373886882010-06-05T09:08:33.427-07:002010-06-05T09:08:33.427-07:00Yep. It sucks, it sucks, it sucks. No woman should...Yep. It sucks, it sucks, it sucks. No woman should be let down by her body - nobody should have to go through the stupidity that is the female reproductive system without it doing, ya know, the actual reproductive bit. And it also utterly sucks that a woman carries a child that she isn't able to raise. Suddenly, the pampering that a pregnant woman *should* get looks cruelly absent... from both angles. <br /><br />It *is* a heartbreaking business, all of this. I wish it weren't so. Thinking of you.Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-68073572838460011862010-06-05T08:09:55.983-07:002010-06-05T08:09:55.983-07:00I agree, this was beautiful! And what's most ...I agree, this was beautiful! And what's most important is that the baby is already loved. Can't wait for more details -- which country?Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03342557533259256831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-77576750492041733562010-06-05T08:03:43.853-07:002010-06-05T08:03:43.853-07:00Geez, you are one good writer. My heart is breaki...Geez, you are one good writer. My heart is breaking a little too. And you will pamper that little one. <br /><br />And to answer your question from my blog - no, I don't. I did (and had a pretty high-stress job and an even fancier degree) but I quit about a year ago when CCRM became part of our TTC life. The stress was bad for me at work, I didn't make enough money to warrant the stress, and DH and I decided that my job (and it can be a time-consuming one!) was to build our family. I was not planning to work when parenting anyway. Honestly, it is the best decision we've made in this process. And I don't miss it at all.Piehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07331859341593997811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-8456331221459467382010-06-05T07:16:28.138-07:002010-06-05T07:16:28.138-07:00I cannot even imagine how difficult this journey m...I cannot even imagine how difficult this journey must be that you're on. I know that when they place that little baby in your arms, you will be so in love and will feel like the luckiest mom in the world, I know because I hear it all the time from parents that adopt. But I also know that this journey through adoption doesn't start there and that you're in the difficult stage, having to accept things that are not easy to accept. I pray that this is a quick and beautiful process for you and that the difficult stage is short and the rewards are endless. This is going to be one little blessed baby to have you guys for parents! Hugs!Jill M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03527626839439456919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-80907908511488413172010-06-05T07:14:00.562-07:002010-06-05T07:14:00.562-07:00I am glad that you and Mr LC have each other on th...I am glad that you and Mr LC have each other on this journey because I know that you will pamper each other along the way! Hugs to you both!B and Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10416692168360713720noreply@blogger.com