tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post7320383010045909352..comments2024-03-15T12:49:28.916-07:00Comments on Last Chance IVF: A light in the dark.lastchanceivfhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14139576318784337837noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-47602253575785885392010-06-10T20:09:36.438-07:002010-06-10T20:09:36.438-07:00Oh, you made me cry again.
I don't fear you.
...Oh, you made me cry again.<br /><br />I don't fear you.<br />I find you inspiring.<br />There is most definitely a light that comes from your posts. And that's all about you.<br /><br />Thank you for sharing and your beautiful writing.<br /><br />The first IF blog I ever read was Julie over at A Little Pregnant...she allowed me to see the humour in IF...in fact, I think I found her by googling that exact phrase!Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17462141149078143157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-43091617232685385062010-05-18T18:57:29.682-07:002010-05-18T18:57:29.682-07:00If you want to know the honest truth, I would have...If you want to know the honest truth, I would have been lost without some of your comments on my blog in the last few weeks. I don't know you, we've never met, but our virtal hugs, your advice, your kind words have made such a tremendous impact on me.<br /><br />I don't know how to thank YOU, I don't know what words are adequate to express my feelings. I am sorry that something as f'd up as IF and CCRM is what led me to find your blog and read your experiences. But I'm grateful. Thankyou.Ramblerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06095698168514644000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-53733260460999559512010-05-17T19:29:11.331-07:002010-05-17T19:29:11.331-07:00I've been trying to comment for days but silly...I've been trying to comment for days but silly internet won't 'verify my OpenID credentials' - since I clearly have not a clue how to fix that...<br /><br />What I have been trying to say is that you ARE a light - to so many of us. Your strong partnership, video editing skills, honesty and bravery. All I can say is thank GOODNESS for this blogosphere - You're not alone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-66882154058005772322010-05-17T17:51:25.099-07:002010-05-17T17:51:25.099-07:00Since the day we first connected online, you'v...Since the day we first connected online, you've been a light to me, one that keeps getting brighter.GailYhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09494920202056776668noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-78325271532873661932010-05-16T16:21:59.752-07:002010-05-16T16:21:59.752-07:00I have had this same thought often when someone st...I have had this same thought often when someone still in the trenches emerges in my comments for the first time. I wonder what I could possibly have to offer them. I used to think of how horrible it would be to be in that situation because I still felt like I had options and that surely wouldn't happen to me.<br /><br />I guess now I see it as being a different kind of light. No, all those IVFs didn't give the outcome we all hoped for, but your resiliency and strength go so far above and beyond showing others that there can still be life even when it doesn't look like the one you imagined.<br /><br />You are still very much a light to me and my journey...You know I'd be lost without you so keep sharing your goofy self, your grief self, your baking self, and everything else that we all love about you.Lost in Spacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07027117135940864685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-18597814420849824572010-05-15T16:25:27.433-07:002010-05-15T16:25:27.433-07:00I TOTALLY understand and feel the same way. (Not s...I TOTALLY understand and feel the same way. (Not sure if you remember, but some other random blogger called me a "worse case scenario" and I reamed her out for it.) You can feel how you want to feel, we are all here to support, and understand and justify, you feelings.<br /><br />SunshineSunshinehttp://waitinginsunshine.typepad.com/blog/#tpnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-36124606849270190202010-05-15T09:21:13.250-07:002010-05-15T09:21:13.250-07:00First, congrats on passing your test!
Second, it...First, congrats on passing your test! <br /><br />Second, it is so evident from the outpouring of comments that you are an incredible light and inspiration for so many. I can't add anything more true and elegant than what's already been said. But, when I found your blog, I wasn't scared. I was impressed with your outlook, your perspective and ability to communincate your struggles with such humor and honesty.Alicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05319942068629779927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-45146578847154648712010-05-14T21:36:46.693-07:002010-05-14T21:36:46.693-07:00When I think about all the IF hell I have been thr...When I think about all the IF hell I have been through, I also try to find the silver lining. If I hadn't been through this crazy journey, I would never have met you and your husband. I really cherish our bloggy friendship. Maybe the lesson for women like us is that IVF doesn't need to "fix" us. Maybe we are ok just the way we are. I know that the desire to have children is deeply rooting in that reptilian brain of ours and it's going to gnaw at us incessantly. Hopefully, we can be each other's lights as we figure out what our paths in life are next? I have a feeling, whatever it is, it isn't going to be boring. Congrats on passing your test, not like I had any doubts...Phoebehttp://talesphoenix.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-41102700096773774152010-05-14T20:17:22.884-07:002010-05-14T20:17:22.884-07:00LC, this is for you my dear... keep your light shi...LC, this is for you my dear... keep your light shining- no matter what! You inspire me in so many ways! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BP-yuXlONVQ&feature=relatedBabystepshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15887687246851640547noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-65909645059840084732010-05-14T16:50:07.898-07:002010-05-14T16:50:07.898-07:00Yep, I agree with pretty much everything everyone ...Yep, I agree with pretty much everything everyone else said. Newbies will never think it can happen to them anyway, so it won't really be too discouraging for them. Remember that feeling? That you figured you'd never actually have to resort to IVF?<br /><br />You're a light in so many other ways, too. You inspire me to appreciate my parents and enjoy my marriage. For me, that has been truly important, and I should have mentioned it earlier.Lorrainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04180034761243431694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-78648492822073086562010-05-14T16:10:10.328-07:002010-05-14T16:10:10.328-07:00After reading this post I *immediately* clicked to...After reading this post I *immediately* clicked to comment. And then I found myself just staring at the box... I never really found the pg-after-IF blogs enticing. There were some vet-pg-after-IF blogs (like <a href="http://infertilityadventure.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">Kami</a> that I liked. But not a lot. I am not an optimist and I never really *believed* that IVF would work for us. I'm not saying that I thought it wouldn't, just that I didn't know. I was very aware that, statistically, some people don't succeed and I could fall into either category. While going through IF, I always found the not-pg-after-IF blogs more enticing... they were proof that live would go on even if we were not able to conceive. I mean, <i>of course</i> I would be "happy" if we had success. But what about if not? What then? How would I deal with it. Seeing that other people survived such horrible and unfair situations somehow reassured me that, if that was my path, I could too. In my opinion, yours is a tale that needs told much more than that of those who find "success"...Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07923049494756911105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-35637545937750132582010-05-14T16:01:59.761-07:002010-05-14T16:01:59.761-07:00Everyone else has said it so well already... You ...Everyone else has said it so well already... You are most certainly a light! IF was unchartered territory for me. I didn't know anyone IRL dealing with IF with the exception of a few friends of friends, but IVF worked for all of them. I seemed to be left in the dust. Then I happened upon a blog and eventually your blog, and I found in you the inspiration I was missing. You may not have the biological child you long for, but they way you balance your sadness and grief with grace and courage is quite remarkable. And the fact that you root the rest of us on is pretty darn nice too :)<br /><br />Happy to hear you passed your test. Good for you for not letting life pass you by.Libbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06957887707439694944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-28868240895129369922010-05-14T15:50:36.142-07:002010-05-14T15:50:36.142-07:00i've never commented, but i did want to say th...i've never commented, but i did want to say that i am a newbie, and you are a light. i get so afraid of getting wrapped up in this all and losing myself. becoming obsessed with one goal (baby). your posts are so amazing because they show me that yes, while you may have gone through that phase, you have kept growing as a result, and therefore its also a possibility for me. <br /><br />i need that so much right now. this is not the end. i will continue to have a good life with plenty to be thankful for long after this is over. complete with laughing and being goofy, like you and your husband do.alisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13607033334640471566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-82070547782716234382010-05-14T10:02:21.841-07:002010-05-14T10:02:21.841-07:00I meant to comment on this post yesterday but didn...I meant to comment on this post yesterday but didn't have a chance! But I thought about it constantly! I just want you to know that you ARE light in the dark for many people, me included. Infertility is something that will have a place in my life forever- whether I have a child of my own or adopt or choose otherwise. I feel like we are all a band of sisters going through this, and just knowing one another gives me hope and support and lots of light in my life. And in that way, I will never let go of my "sisters"- past, current, and future, who have experienced similar situations. You are a light. You have experienced something that is outrageous, and you are BRAVE and COURAGEOUS and I find so much strength in your posts. Thanks for that!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-7869173717150429242010-05-14T07:11:05.811-07:002010-05-14T07:11:05.811-07:00But don't you see?? You are a HUGE LIGHT whos...But don't you see?? You are a HUGE LIGHT whose spirit and thoughtful, kind, inspiring words SHINE THROUGH on every post? You are a BRIGHT, SHINING LIGHT. Last night I thought of you before I went to bed. One's character and value to others is the greasest give we can give:)Krishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09916441645018957933noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-87277519839208954362010-05-14T06:27:03.651-07:002010-05-14T06:27:03.651-07:00Silly rabbit - you're a light for everyone who...Silly rabbit - you're a light for everyone who's struggling through darkness and wonders whether they can emerge at the end w/ soul and smile intact. You're a light every day. Love - StaceyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-11487118691612996002010-05-14T01:31:37.368-07:002010-05-14T01:31:37.368-07:00The light at the end of your tunnel: it might not ...The light at the end of your tunnel: it might not be the light you expected, but it's still a light.Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-22808149661515633212010-05-13T23:37:06.567-07:002010-05-13T23:37:06.567-07:00OMW, if I was not over on the other side of the wo...OMW, if I was not over on the other side of the world I would literally come over and say this to you - you are the light!! You have shown how to master living a full life WITHOUT the need for children and you have done it so graciously. Thank you for showing us that there is life out there. I can see how much you guys enjoy life, yes there is sadness but you manage to work through it. I always read each of your blog posts, you are inspirational!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-72445419400820262502010-05-13T21:10:02.120-07:002010-05-13T21:10:02.120-07:00I am posting on this blog for the very first time....I am posting on this blog for the very first time. I found your blog a few weeks back and believe me, you are the light for my tunnel. I, unfortunately, have a story similar to yours. I have failed 4 IVF cycles - nothing, never once have I been pregnant or seen a positive HPT. However, seeing your blog, your IVF video and your NY video made me realize that I can't give up on life just because I failed at my IVF attempts. That I should learn from you on how to accept and still have a smile that reaches my eyes. Thank you for sharing your video with me. I shared it with my husband and we both took a page from your life and vowed not to lose against IVF. We may not be successful but we won't be consumed by it. Thank you for that.hopeonastickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17974373136970031077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-21848971691602348102010-05-13T19:52:54.587-07:002010-05-13T19:52:54.587-07:00ok well, see I'm still playing the lotto for y...ok well, see I'm still playing the lotto for ya. I want to mail a $100,000 check your way and hire you 2 surrogates. here's my winning numbers for Saturdays' Tx lotto<br />3 9 20 21 33 53<br /><br />keep on keeping onAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-46115955508472308182010-05-13T19:50:39.881-07:002010-05-13T19:50:39.881-07:00Aw honey...you are a light in a very dark world. ...Aw honey...you are a light in a very dark world. I want you to believe that. You may not be the halogen light you always thought you would be, but you could be the energy saving, environmentally efficient bulb that you didn't imagine that you were. You still don't know how your story beyond IVF is going to turn out and for that, I still say that you are lighting the way for many others - you just don't know it yet.kayjayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18256420678906545238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-63823618917399561822010-05-13T19:38:12.265-07:002010-05-13T19:38:12.265-07:00I echo everyone, you are absolutely a light! Just ...I echo everyone, you are absolutely a light! Just because you're not a "success" in the IVF world doesn't mean that you're not a success- at encouraging, educating, comforting, and a million other things. I am sorry about the situation you've been handed, but I don't pity you; I come to your blog because I enjoy your writing, I feel better after reading what you have to say and love that you're not just sugar coating and blowing smoke all the time. You're real and that's a real comfort.SillyHillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10856854547650157709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-66908799311840466752010-05-13T19:01:41.807-07:002010-05-13T19:01:41.807-07:00i hope you see how very special you are to so many...i hope you see how very special you are to so many people. i don't see your story as a failure. you said it yourself, it's a love story. you just didn't get to the end yet. <br /><br />i know that it must be super difficult to be done/considering being done with treatment. but don't think that you are any less of an inspiration or that your knowledge is in vain. i have to believe that at the end of the day, everything happens for a reason. even though i hate to admit it. but maybe i lost my girls so that i could help others in the same situation. maybe you had so many cycles in order to be that light for the ever shrinking group of real infertiles with not much hope. (shrinking due to the ever increasing number of 20 somethings heading straight for IVF before exhausting all their options) <br /><br />and i read your blog simply for the fact that you are one of the most graceful, giving and sweet people i have ever had the pleasure of not really knowing. you give me strength and hope. you support me in spite of your losses. you care even when anyone would understand if you didn't. you help me see that even when everything goes wrong, there are so many things that can go right. if that isn't a light in the darkness, i don't know what is. <br /><br />hugs to you<br />lisbibchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13696528943928321710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-65274883567631122732010-05-13T17:04:27.888-07:002010-05-13T17:04:27.888-07:00I find light in your posts, in your outlook, in yo...I find light in your posts, in your outlook, in your relationship with you husband, in your laughter-through-tears. We never know what road we'll walk down, and it is ofter not the road we thought. But that doesn't mean that your road isn't as inspiring and light-filled as someone else's.<br /><br />And the support you give others (me!) puts so much light out there in the world. I thank you for that!Piehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07331859341593997811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-31319163015620760542010-05-13T16:51:43.214-07:002010-05-13T16:51:43.214-07:00First- YAY for the test!
Second- you are my light...First- YAY for the test!<br /><br />Second- you are my light in so many ways. Your blog inspires me to keep fighting, laughing and enjoying life. You and your thoughtful comments brighten my darkest days. <br /><br />Even though you are the poster child for IVF success (neither am I), you have so many other qualities that really inspire me. <br /><br />There are lots of us out here in the blogworld, that wouldn't be the same without you.R.https://www.blogger.com/profile/09730805885076066358noreply@blogger.com