tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post7206702060728276113..comments2024-03-15T12:49:28.916-07:00Comments on Last Chance IVF: Stop the presses!lastchanceivfhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14139576318784337837noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-70592014112221892832010-06-20T06:02:14.416-07:002010-06-20T06:02:14.416-07:00WAIT!! How did I miss this post of yours??? OK, fi...WAIT!! How did I miss this post of yours??? OK, first, weight gain theory has some merit for those women who are not ovulating and ONLY have that issue impeding on getting pregnant - other than that, it's horse shit! Like so many posts stated - skinny people, fat people, drug addicts, hookers, teenagers addicted to diet pills, CEOs addicted to caffeine, sugar addicts and carbohydrate dough eaters ALLLL GET PREGNANT... everyday. Sorry Drs, I am not buying the silver bullet - my theory these days is that it's plain ol' fashion GOOD LUCK vs. BAD LUCK and yes, those are clinical terms :)<br /><br />As far as the poll - I don't even understand how there could be a contemplation for parents to consider not being there with their babies - but since I live in NYC, the land of nannies-raising-babies and baby-nurses being the ones feeding the babes at midnight, and designer C-sections, that story doesn't seem that far off from the reality of what parents here do and don't do for their children.<br />For me - I would NEVER leave my babies' side, even if I had to sleep on a plastic chair, be there without a change of clothes or a toothbrush... never ever!Babystepshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15887687246851640547noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-9570520663442289782010-06-18T00:52:45.794-07:002010-06-18T00:52:45.794-07:00Sorry about the lame colleagues.
I can't ima...Sorry about the lame colleagues. <br /><br />I can't imagine leaving newborns for 3 weeks in the NICU, with family, ... anywhere! Is she dealing with PPD?Polly Gamwichhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09338430066217324064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-42515271344026197122010-06-17T14:14:41.919-07:002010-06-17T14:14:41.919-07:00I would NEVER leave the NICU for something as asin...I would NEVER leave the NICU for something as asinine as decorating a room. Who gives a rats ass about paint colors. You can decorate a room ANYtime!Waiting In Sunshinehttp://www.goodcommons.com/gluten2010.htmlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-9062093246976480552010-06-17T13:03:36.679-07:002010-06-17T13:03:36.679-07:00The poll? Well, like everyone else I'm horrif...The poll? Well, like everyone else I'm horrified, but I'm trying to give this hypothetical person the benefit of the doubt. <br /><br />Maybe money was an issue? Hospitals generally don't provide a room for parents with babies in the NICU and staying at a hotel on a long term basis adds up quickly. I had to stay at a hotel out-of-state for about ten days after our surrogate delivered our baby, waiting for the baby to be cleared to fly home. And the bills (hotel + rental car + meals) were incredible.<br /><br />Or, is it possible that she needs to go back to work -- for financial reasons or to try and save some leave for once the babies come home?niobehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10685766216611639434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-26757172999831855092010-06-17T11:15:07.350-07:002010-06-17T11:15:07.350-07:00Man, you are so silly spending all that money on t...Man, you are so silly spending all that money on treatments when you could have just eaten some cookies!<br /><br />and to your question NO. My son was in the level II nursery and he was basically FINE and they couldn't MAKE me leave the hospital much less go to my house 3 blocks away. so NO.Pennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00648049238771250699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-54337422666152849212010-06-16T19:06:09.434-07:002010-06-16T19:06:09.434-07:00Um, I'm sorry, what? I must not have read the ...Um, I'm sorry, what? I must not have read the NICU question correctly. Seriously. You must have missed a few words like "NOT leave your babies in the NICU".<br /><br />As for the folks you work with, its further proof to me that even people that are "experts" or work in the field don't really get it, they don't really understand.Ramblerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06095698168514644000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-67140360466096089462010-06-16T18:51:54.440-07:002010-06-16T18:51:54.440-07:00Barf. All around. And as for the poll, please te...Barf. All around. And as for the poll, please tell me that is not a real scenario. What. A. Freak.Meghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09444818808956802035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-10186242050666298472010-06-16T18:20:46.641-07:002010-06-16T18:20:46.641-07:00My mouth is wide open... though I don't know w...My mouth is wide open... though I don't know why I still get surprised when I hear medical "professionals" say such stupid things. I'll be sending you a personal message on my recent encounter with my GYN nurse.GailYhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09494920202056776668noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-77844608501529642532010-06-16T10:35:32.457-07:002010-06-16T10:35:32.457-07:00I'm so sorry about those comments from your co...I'm so sorry about those comments from your co-workers - it's always particularly painful when people make comments like that when they KNOW that it's something that you're going through.<br /><br />As to the question - I would be considering calling social services on someone that would leave their prem. babies in another state to go and prettify their house!Silverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15524066274559867949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-89859222193700932432010-06-16T09:35:07.631-07:002010-06-16T09:35:07.631-07:00Unless the weight gain is responsible for ovulatio...Unless the weight gain is responsible for ovulation in someone so underweight that the body's in preservation mode or the person's body fat is just too low (think body builders), I've read no science that indicates weight gain improves fertility.<br /><br />But that's still not as bad as the general consensus that going on vacation and relaxing will make you pregnant.<br /><br />I would leave my baby in the hospital NICU so I could go home, shower and sleep and then I'd be back. I can't really see flying/driving to my home in another state so I could get a nursery ready, clean the bathroom or wipe down my countertops. I mean, fuck it! Those things will get done when they get done. <br /><br />I would have to be, literally, just down the road from the hospital in case anything happened suddenly that I could be there in a flash. <br /><br />But that's just me. To each their own, I guess.Skyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18288560043939554132noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-80814022275991488542010-06-16T05:11:58.744-07:002010-06-16T05:11:58.744-07:00Seriously? (about your poll question). Someone did...Seriously? (about your poll question). Someone did that? There is NO WAY I'd leave the NICU or the general vicinity of the NICU. NO WAY. I'll be honest, I was in an online due date group with fellow IF sufferers and I am SHOCKED at how little consideration they are giving the babies they fought so hard for. Its like, now that they are here, they aren't worth really worrying about. Some of them are great...but others are just surprisingly uncaring. Rushing into solid foods b/c they are annoyed at the babies waking up at night, putting them to sleep on their tummies b/c "they like it so much better that way", etc...I mean, was I the only one running to the bassinet every hour to check if she was still ok? Its amazing.<br /><br />And, I'm sorry about really stoooopid people and the things they say. BTW, my SIL is approaching anorexic skinny and didn't want to have a baby b/c it would "ruin her body" and "it is icky" and she went off the pill to humor her husband and literally, within the 2 months she gave her husband to conceive (at 36 years old and like 100 lbs) she is due in August (well, July b/c she wanted the c-section early to avoid stretch marks). Ugh. I love her, but this whole thing just makes me sick. It gets worse, but you've heard enough annoying stories like this I'm sure.Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05323373273366929886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-43653890196292425092010-06-16T03:48:22.259-07:002010-06-16T03:48:22.259-07:00Your story made me shake my head. Your poll made ...Your story made me shake my head. Your poll made me want to pound my head on the table.Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07923049494756911105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-59406408956872699722010-06-15T21:23:22.970-07:002010-06-15T21:23:22.970-07:00HA. I'm with Melissa G. - if gaining weight wa...HA. I'm with Melissa G. - if gaining weight was the solution, I'd have more kids than two Duggard families at this point.<br /><br />I don't even want to know who it is who left their kids alone in the NICU. There are no words.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09564075022074996137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-74348015336086422992010-06-15T21:04:47.576-07:002010-06-15T21:04:47.576-07:00Lame-O comments from the Dr.'s. They just nee...Lame-O comments from the Dr.'s. They just need to feel like they have answers...and swift kick to the head.<br /><br />And as for your question...WTF?Alicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05319942068629779927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-77332779398738581122010-06-15T20:27:44.833-07:002010-06-15T20:27:44.833-07:00If those NICU babies need new parents, you know wh...If those NICU babies need new parents, you know where to find us.Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03342557533259256831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-10665291809577925242010-06-15T20:11:46.554-07:002010-06-15T20:11:46.554-07:00Lose weight. Gain weight. Relax. Get pregnant. ...Lose weight. Gain weight. Relax. Get pregnant. Don't drink. Don't drink caffeine. WHATEVER. I'm so tired of this being about what I do. For crying outloud, people get pregnant all the time - stressed out, on heroin, fat, thin, drunk, addicted to starbucks. It's infertility, people.<br /><br />And you know what I think about the nicu thing. I wouldn't leave. The nursery, ha.Mrs. Hopehttp://www.holdmyhope.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-1200327601178688482010-06-15T19:58:46.260-07:002010-06-15T19:58:46.260-07:00Please, please, please don't tell me this is a...Please, please, please don't tell me this is about who I think it is about (the SO of an MD you know). I am about to pull my hair out! Not just no, but HELL NO YOU COULD NOT MAKE ME LEAVE THEM!<br /><br />And ugh. The conversation. Really, really? Because next week they'll be talking about Susie who was overweight and finally got pregnant because she lost weight. Reset my ass.Not Your Aunt Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11170586207423260492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-3755926831070592252010-06-15T19:33:56.815-07:002010-06-15T19:33:56.815-07:00Oh man, when I feel the heat in my face, words are...Oh man, when I feel the heat in my face, words are soon to follow. Sorry you work with idiots. (My idiot boss likes to argue why IF should not be covered by insurance.)<br /><br />As for leaving one's babies in the NICU, I hope her mothering skills kick in soon.Libbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06957887707439694944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-3914589608594312992010-06-15T18:41:13.344-07:002010-06-15T18:41:13.344-07:00OMG on the weight comment. And the "be caref...OMG on the weight comment. And the "be careful what you wish for comment." <br /><br />I have no words for the NICU question. NO WORDS.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-827180936834282142010-06-15T16:22:53.095-07:002010-06-15T16:22:53.095-07:00Uhhhh, no words. Speechless on all counts.Uhhhh, no words. Speechless on all counts.Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05200639221841548302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-46404971042655021702010-06-15T15:55:23.316-07:002010-06-15T15:55:23.316-07:00If that were true I would be one fertile myrtle.....If that were true I would be one fertile myrtle.... So sorry about that idiotic conversation. <br /><br />As for your poll question: Umm, Hell No!! Isn't that what in-laws are for???Mel.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17095162408557764223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-24652501093909786142010-06-15T15:53:31.834-07:002010-06-15T15:53:31.834-07:00Ummm...NO! NO! NO! WTF?! How could one's pri...Ummm...NO! NO! NO! WTF?! How could one's priorities be that f*cked up?<br /><br />And your coworker's advice sounds like the assvice Michelle Dugger gave infertiles last year: just pray harder. UGH! Let's see...praying didn't work for me, and neither did paying someone $25k, so perhaps all it will take is gaining a little weight. Maybe I should also take up smoking, that seemed to work for my 43 year-old neighbor.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11568731053148296398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-58044770708223696272010-06-15T15:45:06.870-07:002010-06-15T15:45:06.870-07:00OMG! The ignorance is overflowing....
And LEAVE T...OMG! The ignorance is overflowing....<br /><br />And LEAVE THE BABIES?!?! To finish a nursery!?!<br /><br />Oh wow...'Murgdan'https://www.blogger.com/profile/00740095971968567222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-32240612967561995942010-06-15T14:15:11.354-07:002010-06-15T14:15:11.354-07:00To the first part: WHAT?
To the second part: WWW...To the first part: WHAT? <br /><br />To the second part: WWWHHAAAAAAAAAATTT???Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699072659992921489.post-59081345727416492902010-06-15T14:03:53.636-07:002010-06-15T14:03:53.636-07:00ugh what a pain in the ass. on both counts. yea, t...ugh what a pain in the ass. on both counts. yea, that's just what infertile girls need! a couple more pounds!! haha<br /><br />and you know my vote for the bottom question. i can't even formulate the words to comment.<br />xoxobibchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13696528943928321710noreply@blogger.com